When I think about marriage, I think about two people in love who want to spend their lives together. They want to be with each other at every moment they aren’t working or using the facilities (hopefully). I don’t mind the concept of marriage. In fact, I embrace it as much as one can embrace a figurative bond between two things. But I have a qualm that I wish to share.
Marriage has been changed over the years. Marriage has adapted to fit our lifestyles. Marriage has become less than that which it was first intended.
Years ago, when a couple got married, it was either to join families (for economic gain) or because there wasn’t much else to do and that’s what people did (boredom/ a way to consummate). Marriage evolved, as well as our morals and standards of living, and became something that was expected. It was still “what people did” but a different way of doing it. It became a way to finalize one’s life; to make a life complete. But it didn’t have to be the end.
Divorce has been around since before Henry XIII even, but it wasn’t as “popular” as it seems to be today. Marriage, in the biblical sense, is a holy union that is everlasting. Yet couple’s find that divorce is the “Get Out Of Jail Free” card that makes life that much easier: if you don’t like your companion, you can trade in for a new one. It’s as simple as that.
Which makes me wonder why the idea of marriage has lasted this long? Why is our society so infatuated with this ideal of commitment, when we don’t seem like our own resolutions? Granted, divorce laws have become increasingly more lenient throughout the decades, but it doesn’t mean we have to use them.
But that’s just it. We don’t have to, but we know they are there.
Couples are getting married at a faster rate and a younger age than just 20 years ago. It got me thinking, “Why?” Why would couples want to place the burden on themselves so early in life? And the answer is: because they don’t have to commit to anything. Divorce rates have steadily risen after the 1970s and our lifestyles are mostly to blame. With technology becoming ever more rampant in our lives, and both men and women working, there’s not as much time to waste. We have to get busy living, or we may not get to live at all.
And that’s the kicker. We are so afraid of not having anyone to spend our lives with that we rush to the first person we meet, ask them to marry, and before we can change our Facebook profile, we realize that we can’t stand the other person. We file for divorce, hit up eHarmony, and start the process all over again.